Towards Becoming Better Parents
For a job like typists, teacher, clerk or driver, people will train you and check your credentials before appointment. But parenting is always taken for granted and no one is ever checked out whether they are capable of becoming good parents or not. We mostly depend on our instincts when it comes to our children, whereas when we are cooking we would always consult someone who is better knowledgeable about it. It is time for a change now. In today’s world parenting cannot be taken for granted. We as the parents need help for the total development of our children...
The greatest asset and strength you have as a parent is your love for your Children, your concern for their well-being. You already have the skills of being a good parent; all you need to do is re-discover your full potential to help keep your children away from problem behaviours like smoking, addictions etc.
Once your child begins to talk, it’s not long before their questions follow. “Why is the milk white?” “Why is the sky blue? Those simple questions will soon give way to “What’s wrong with that man who is staring at us?” “Why should we not smoke cigarettes?” and “Why does grandmother cough so much?” Take advantage of this initial trust your child has in you. Try to answer those questions so that someday you will come across serious questions where the guidance is required. Time will fly with kids around and soon the will be learning more and reach a stage where s/he will think you do not know anything much. That phase is not much far of, so build up the trust by making efforts to give honest answers which the child can grasp. Don’t tell things that the child will not be able to understand or handle. Once the child knows that you are taking him seriously and trying hard to answer all his/her questions he/she will sure come to you when something bothers them or they need advice because they know you take them seriously. They are more important than the TV serials, cooking, cleaning, surfing internet etc.
Being a good listener gives you insight into your children’s world– the sights and sounds that influence them every day. God has given clear indication of his intentions with the way he has made us. We have just one mouth which can be shut but two ears that are always open. Don’t hear what your children say; listen to them. Sometimes they may be just checking you out whether it is right for them to tell you something that is troubling them.
For example: When the child says “This time around math paper was very tough and all kids are worried”. This could be just to see how you are going to respond if he tells you that he has done poorly in his math paper. Don’t put them off by getting over excited or scared when they reveal something to you. Do not ignore their friends or be-little them. Knowing their friends and activities also gives you a look into THEIR world, which is so different from what we are living in. When a child says that I want to wear the jeans like the one my friends have bought – don’t just chide him away saying only bad kids wear jeans. Children are smarter than that to take those silly words seriously. If they are in mood for an argument than you will have one on hand or else you will be written off as an ignorant fool in the subconscious Diary they keep inside them always.