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Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Are You Being Watched?



I never feel that somebody's watching me .. but Someone Does!
Remember the movie “Enemy of the state”? It left a bad taste in my mouth, where a person may not know he/she is being watched, but their every activity is noted and recorded. 
Never imagined this would happen to me. Me and my assumptions, Sigh!
I am being watched by not high technology military surveillance, NO. I am not that important; neither in positive or negative way. It is my daughter, my own child, who watches me, listens to me and brings up the topic when I least want to hear about it.
I may hear a woman shouting at the kid and say, “How can a mom shout at her kid like that as though she is not her own?” in a kind of disgusting mumbling to myself way and forget all about it; until, my daughter does something to prick my anger. Even before I can get two words out of my mouth, she asks me whether she is my own kid or not, because I have already said moms do not shout at their own kids. Her language is not clear like the sentence I have written there, child is a poo in her language and the sentence comes in short, due to missing tough words. It gives the whole drama a touch of innocence and I have to let her go, what else could I do? I have dug my own pit hole to fall into.
There have been various such pits I have dug and fallen into so often.  Though with special needs, Farheena is a smart girl and knows which situation can be taken advantage of. She has the elephantine memory to recall events which had happened years ago. She remembers what I had to tell about a certain situation, what promises I have made, etc  in an unlimited data storage space, which has fast access whenever she needs it.  whew!
She demands equal time of uninterrupted talk time from me, as much as I talk to Rayyan over the phone without being interruptedon the phone. “You cannot treat me different just because I am with you” is her point of argument.  
Recently she had a haircut because her aunt (my sister) said so. I know she loves long hair, I too love her hair. It was not cut very short but the style in the front looked horrible. I am not even going to post pictures of it until it grows a bit more. I couldn't stop grumbling at her for having her hair cut to please her aunt, any way I was grumpy with my surgery which made it easy being grumpy Mom. Finally after a while, she said it is enough, I don't want to hear about my hair. If you loved your kid she would look cute to you in any hair style. That shut me up. :(
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Yesterday, I was talking to my sister in law about the fall my very loving nephew Shuraim had. He was playing out late and she was very upset with him. She was waiting with a stick in her hand, and it was then that he walked in bleeding profusely from a fall. So off she had to rush to the doctor with him. I told her it was Gods way of reminding us that kids are precious and we should not hurt them. It is your own idea of punishing the child which may have led to this..  that wasn’t serious. We were pulling each other’s leg over this for some time. My daughter was busy on facebook, whew! After two hours she comes up with an idea, that if she does something wrong, I should only think of punishing her and not actually punish her. If God feels she is wrong, than he will punish her and if nothing happens like she doesn't has a fall or something, than it is my mistake and she should be forgiven. "When did I say that?" I asked perplexed.   "You said that to aunt just a while ago on phone". I am very sure that I did not say thatit wasn't me. But she is standing firm on that argument. That was confusing and I don’t know yet what I have got myself into in a way of chiding my sister in law in a funny way. Patience is what I need now to see the outcome of what I have said..  Why do I forget I am being watched? at wits' end
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26 comments:

  1. :) he he he yeah the little one is keeping an eye for all that for sure.


    Kids are precious, although I am not much against punishments and all, as that is necessary too, I got a lot of thus and it have not done me any harm ..

    But unnecessary shouting and all that is not good, if we talk to our kids and listen to them , HEAR them .. that should do the trick majority of the time always ..

    Bikram's

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    1. I am totally against physical punishment and verbal abuse of kids. They do not deserve it and we can handle them without resorting to harsh punishments. I have done that not only as a mother but also as a teacher without any big effort.

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    2. I know its not necessary, but then there are times when I loose my cool and give her a small phatakk, once in a while, and OOhhh, only I know the guilt I feel. I blame it on stress, other responsibilities but I know within me these are just excuses.
      Recently was watching the daily show called Person Of Interest, on Star World, and was also wondering the same, would be nice to be able to record each and every action reaction of ours and our loved ones, but then these could create a dirty mess too...

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    3. I know it could create mess and also it would bring into focus when you suddenly feel like killing someone but gain your calm and show them you smile. LOL.
      If you know in your heart that you love your child unconditionally, than the physical punishment doesn't hurt much. There is much darker side to this issue which is scary.

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  2. I think that you daughter will have a bright career .. as a lawyer!

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    1. she would shine and confuse the whole courtroom with her debate. LOL

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  3. i think that children can teach us things in in a better way..
    they learn things from us and teach us those same thing when we need those things..

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  4. Haha... Hilarious post for the youth... and a hair-pulling one for the mom/dads... I do/did this to my mother all the time...! I 'll tell u a lil secret... Next time she says something like that, pretend as though u jus can't recall when you said that... tell her it must be her friend's mom she heard... That's what my mother did.. and after a while i gave up... came up with other ideas though, which i would prefer telling your daughter, not you.. That way i'm giving you a scope for another post! LOL.. :D

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    1. No secrets work with Farheena because she is one of those big unsolved mysterious (even medically). She knows what she knows and that what it is I should know she will say.

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  5. Kids can be the greatest teachers. Your daughter is not just clever, but very wise too. Loved her take on punishment! We really do forget that kids learn more from seeing how grown ups (especially parents) negotiate life than they do from being told how to go about it.

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    1. She has some aura of innocence around her which touches my heart... but yeah she is a wise child.

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  6. Watching and being watched in turn. Weaving endearing logics to secure love and shower it back. Fabric of life is like that. You are very fortunate, Farida.

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  7. Good, proves she knows when to use what. I am lil proud of her as a daughter. LOL...

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  8. As the kids get older, it's like we have to ensure we do and say the right thing always cos they'll definitely have a comment or an argument.

    They get more alert while we age.

    Keeps life interesting.

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