Have respect for your Mom and Dad because you get only one each of them in your whole life time... no matter who you are you cannot have two of them :) – Farida
That was my facebook and twitter message a few days ago. It came
to my mind all of sudden one morning, that I can have brothers, sisters, friends,
children, husbands or anyone in plurals but not mother and father. We have never heard anyone saying my mothers
and my fathers. As I sat down pondering over it, I realized how important it is
for us to function as a parent. Our children can never have a replacement for
us, ever! Even Uncle Sam cannot create another set of parents for children. If
they have good ones, they are lucky, if they don’t, God Save Them!
My parents loved and were kind towards me and my siblings. They tried
very hard to do things the right way. They failed many a times because, they
were ignorant and had no access to information like parents have today.
I remember certain things from my own childhood which made a
lot of difference to my life. After growing up and becoming a responsible
person; I now really feel sorry for those people who were target of my child
hood tantrums. But I also realize what caused them, and so I have become adept
at preventing tantrums and drama shows from the side of the children. It is
very rare that I cannot handle a child smartly without great fuss.
I was a very naughty child. Time and again my grandmother
and mother would warn me that, “God is going punish you if you don’t behave”. At times, I would get scared of a big God hitting me from no-where and would
behave... but most of the times I thought it was a lie and did what I wanted. If
they would have given me some real reasonable answer, or a reason not to be naughty
it would have worked better. Stories of demons carrying away naughty children,
wild animals attacking them were not working with me. But when I think back on
their efforts in trying to instill fear in me, I think it was not right because
with normal child (NO, I wasn’t normal in any way) it would create unnecessary
fear of things that do not exist.

This is how it happened. My sister always preferred to have the table fan running on high speed, because she always felt hot, on the contrary, I felt very cold most of the time. We fought every night before one of us would give in and fall asleep. One day when no one was around I decided to cut the wire of the table fan so that she could not run it that night. I took a blade and started cutting the wire, but in a second someone hit me very hard on my head and I fell hard on the wall. I was alone and there was no one around. I was terrified and scared. I had to believe that my elders were right and at times God does intervene with us. So I was a golden child for 2 years, until we had lesson about electricity. It suddenly flashed in my mind that on that particular day I had received an electric shock when the insulation was cut through and the metal blade had touched the wire. All of sudden everybody who had said ‘God will punish you’ looked very stupid. All of a sudden God was the creation of ignorant people in my life; I became an atheist, and remained so for many years. Finally while studying science again I decided there is a super being to have everything so perfectly balanced. Life has changed and I am destined to believe in God, but I am not pious or religious anymore. I do feel that if I had not been told lot of lies in my childhood, I would not have ended up like what I am now. Not that I would be any better but I am sure I would be different. After the discovery of the truth, the golden child who was afraid of God had suddenly felt smarter and superior to those who believed in lies. My mom who was glad that finally God had answered her prayers was perplexed. You can imagine the plight of family when I had gone through the phase of being the intelligent child finding out the elders were uneducated stupid people.
Parents should not make an issue with what their children have
to like. Give them their choice. You have to interfere for sure when you think
the situation is going to harm the child in anyway. We need to keep our children safe at any cost.
We have to work towards becoming better parents because we are
not replaceable. Even if the child gets adopted or is put under someone’s care,
I feel that a child can relate to only one person as a mother and father for
whole life; the two people the child will look up to for becoming a better
person. Let us not let our children down.
I believe you are quite right on this subject and am with you all of the way.
ReplyDeleteYour children are beautiful...and they are the only children that you will have, so it works in both directions. RESPECT is a really important trait to follow.
Thank you for this.
Megan.
A gem of a post for all parents...and true, we should never ever scare our children.
ReplyDeleteLovely post Farida.I totally agree with you.Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteLoved this post , I hope all parents read this and learn the aRT .. Thank you for sharing
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Great post Farida.. I too have realised telling the truth to kids works best. if you don't, they'll figure it out sooner than later and then where's your credibility? BTW my sis and I would also fight about the fan.. she'd want it and I wouldn't :-).
ReplyDeleteI agree tell them the reason for not indulging in some activity. I was in Gymbore which is a play school here and one kid was snatching toys from other. The other kid mom was saying his child to give the toy but teacher said let the child learn to protect his stuff. Don't stop him from standing from himself. We have to teach them a lot these days. No doubt they are smarter but we should channelize their energies.
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