Friday, August 21, 2009

My wonder boy is 18 today

Happy birthday Rayyan.
Rayyan, my wonder boy is 18 years old as of today. I am so happy that I have lived to see him grow into a wonderful human being. As I reflect back on the years he has been with me I feel so overwhelmed by his character. He could set a Guinness record for behavior. Never has he fought with anyone, never landed a blow on a single person or animal, not once has he fought with me, never pestered me for anything he needs (he always will let me know what he needs and then will wait until I can get it for him or else we talk and then he will realize I cannot afford it and lets it go at that). The ‘never’ here is not a general once in while never. It is zero actually a zero score. Am I lucky? You tell me. A young man who will never be awed by someone others will consider big nor will pretend big to someone who others consider small. A sense of equality Rayyan possesses makes me feel guilty. He has changed me a lot in the past 18 years. My daughter has been the reason why I fought cancer fiercely but Rayyan is the person in my life who helped me fight cancer. Even as a young child he would be there to comfort and encourage me. The worst emotional trauma for him was to watch me go bald very soon after I lost my sister. It was too much for a 5 year old to feel he may lose his Mom like he lost his aunt. It was very scary. He was very close to my sister and he loved her very much. He never let me feel hurt though by asking questions or making fuss about how he felt. He suffered silently and I was worried about him. No other child could have dealt with his father the way he does. He is understanding , patient and comforting to him. He is smart enough not to argue with his father like he does with me, my friends and his friends. LOL. He knows which tree bears the fruit. He has a talent for coming up with some wonderful quotes at times which makes sense perfectly for the situation which has me rolling in laughter. I think he is compensation for all the rest of the shit I have in my life. Thank you Rayyan for being such a wonderful son any mother would be proud of. Never once have I regretted having you as a son nor once have I been frustrated. I may never have dared to ask for such a wonderful son ever. Thank you God for considering me worthy enough to have Rayyan in my life. He makes such a huge difference to me…………… Happy birthday dear boy.. or should we say man? May you have many more. Love you.
I have planned to share the wonderful moments of my life with Rayyan in installments… I need to make a thread on my blog exclusively for Rayyan.


  1. Happy birthday Rayyan!

    Farida, remember always that your wonderful son is a reflection of the mother who raised him and instilled those values in him.

    You have raised him well. You have every reason to be proud.

  2. Thanks for saying that Jeff. But I know more than me instilling values in him .. he has done that to me.

  3. You did a wonderful job to raise a good son :)
    Now you got all rights to be proud of him and the human being he has become. :)
    It is as much his achievement as it is yours!!
    Happy belated birthday to your son :)

  4. I noticed a comment you left on adam's blog about your son, relating to the mind and one moment at a time.

    Take a look at my posts... I think you may enjoy!

    Tell me what you think.

  5. My son is not with special needs. He is special only to me..
    My daughter is 14 and has multiple special needs care... I will try visiting your blog . Thanks for caring

  6. You commented in your post if you were lucky for having such a good son. Luck is a very small part of it. The majority of it is you, not luck. So you need to tell yourself what a great job you did in raising such a great son.

  7. Im 18 myself..
    I think this article is beautiful
    happy birthday to him

  8. Thanks Innocent and Laelivelove... I at times assume I am a good Mom but my son Rayyan is also having something good inside him..


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