Happy Birthday

 

Happy Birthday, Surila ❤️

Today, I celebrate the life of my beloved sister, Surila.

You were only three years older than me, but you were my greatest protector, my confidante, and my safe place. You never let anyone hurt me, and no matter where life took us, you always found a way to stand by me whenever I needed you.

When I lost you in 1996, I was fighting my own battle with breast cancer while caring for my little daughter. Losing you at the time I needed you most changed something deep within me. I learned to become the strong person you had always been for me.

People often tell me how resilient I am, but they don't know that my strength was first nurtured by you. A part of the woman I am today was shaped by the love, courage, and fierce protectiveness of an elder sister who never stopped believing in me.

Birthdays are meant to celebrate life, and today I celebrate yours—with gratitude for every memory, every laugh, every sacrifice, and every moment of unconditional love you gave me.

You may no longer be by my side, but you will forever be a part of who I am.

Happy Birthday, Surila.
You are deeply loved, dearly missed, and forever remembered. ❤️

My First Student: My Mommy

Some of the most important moments in our lives don't arrive with applause. They happen quietly, in ordinary homes, between ordinary people, and we only realise years later that they changed the course of our lives forever.

For me, that moment came when I was in the 3rd or 4th grade.

One day, I watched my mommy put her thumb impression on a document. She was somewhere in her late thirties then—a short, stout woman who was always draped in a sari, a capable homemaker who managed our family with quiet strength. She had raised children, run a household, and carried responsibilities I couldn't possibly understand at that age. Yet she couldn't write her own name. Whenever a document needed her acknowledgment, she simply pressed her thumb onto the ink pad and left behind an impression that stood in place of her identity.

Something about that stayed with me.

I don't remember making a grand decision. I simply remember thinking, "Why can't I teach Mommy to sign her name?"

So our little lessons began.

Like every serious teacher, I started with what I thought was the obvious approach. I opened my notebook, carefully wrote her name—M. A. Aisha—and asked her to copy it. She held the pen awkwardly, almost like someone trying to use an unfamiliar tool. The lines she drew looked like dry branches on a leafless tree. Not a single letter resembled the one I had written. It was then that I realised something my nine-year-old mind had never considered before: before you learn to write letters, you first have to learn how to hold a pen.

That day, my teaching strategy changed completely. Out came the slate and a piece of chalk. 

The slate became our blackboard, any place we could sit was our classroom, and every evening turned into a lesson. Holding the chalk itself felt unnatural for her. Her fingers were stiff, unsure of how much pressure to apply. The letters wandered across the slate, grew too large, shrank too small, leaned sideways, and often disappeared into a cloud of erased chalk dust. But every day they became just a little steadier.

Once she grew comfortable with the slate, we graduated to a notebook and pencil. Only after many weeks did I finally allow her the privilege of using a pencil and later pen.

There was just one small problem.

Being an overconfident nine-year-old, I decided that if Mommy was going to learn, she might as well learn properly. So I taught her to write her name in cursive.

At that age, I had absolutely no idea that cursive writing is difficult even for people who already know how to write.

Poor Mommy patiently followed every loop, every curve, and every connecting stroke. She wrote painfully slowly, concentrating as though every single letter was an examination. Looking back today, I can't help laughing at myself. I had unknowingly chosen the hardest possible handwriting style for a woman who had never held a pen before.

But she never complained.

She simply kept practising.

Then came the day that neither of us knew would become unforgettable. The postman arrived with a telegram. Back then, receiving a telegram was an event. Usually, Mommy would quietly press her thumb impression wherever she was asked. That day was different. She picked up the pen.

Slowly...

Carefully...

With complete concentration... She wrote her name. M. A. Aisha.

Her signature wasn't perfect. The 'S' in Aisha would swell into a large loop that reminded me of a pregnant woman. For a while, I tried correcting it. Eventually, I gave up—not because I couldn't teach her differently, but because I had fallen in love with that oversized 'S'. It made her signature uniquely hers, and somehow that mattered more than perfection.

The postman looked surprised.

"You didn't sign before," he remarked.

Mommy looked at him with the proudest smile I had ever seen and simply said,

"My daughter taught me."

That was all.

No speech.

No celebration.

Just one sentence.

But somehow, that sentence has echoed through my entire life.

From that day onwards, Mommy never went back to using her thumb impression. Every chance she got, she would proudly sign her name. And every now and then, she would tell someone with unmistakable pride, "My daughter taught me to sign."

I don't think she ever realised that while I was teaching her to write her name, she was quietly teaching me who I was meant to become.

She gave me my first student.

Looking back now, I realise this was never just a story about literacy. It was the beginning of a lifelong love affair with teaching.

After Mommy came my younger brother. Then his friends. I even helped my elder sister learn Kannada and Mathematics, subjects she struggled with, despite her being three grades ahead of me. Soon, classmates who needed help found their way to me. Somewhere along the way, I became the unofficial reader and writer of our family. I read letters aloud, filled out forms, explained documents, and happily became everyone's little personal assistant. I never found teaching to be a burden—I found it irresistible. I was often drawn to the most unlikely students, people who initially resisted learning but slowly began to enjoy it. Not everyone continued the journey. My mommy, for instance, stopped after learning to sign her name. She never went on to read or write, but that one signature gave her confidence, dignity, and ownership of her identity. Looking back, I realise she wasn't just my first student; she was the one who awakened the teacher within me. 

Years later, my classrooms became larger. My students became more diverse. I taught children, counselled families, trained professionals, mentored women rebuilding their careers, and eventually built My Giggle Garden, where learning once again became the centre of my world.

People often ask me where my passion for teaching came from.

I don't think I found it in a university classroom or during my professional career.

I think it was born one afternoon on a humble slate, beside a woman in a simple sari who believed she was learning to write her name.

She wasn't.

She was quietly laying the foundation stone for my life's purpose.

Be a Mirror that Reflects Light

 "If you cannot be the light that shines, be the mirror that reflects that light."

On 1st July 2020, I began my journey with Chimple Learning. What started as a job soon became a journey filled with purpose, learning, and immense gratitude. More importantly, it gave me the privilege of becoming a part of Srikanth's vision—a vision to make education simple, joyful, and accessible for every child.

Over the years, I've had the honour of being part of an organization that is transforming education by making learning something children genuinely enjoy. Every milestone we've achieved has reinforced my belief that meaningful work has the power to change lives.

Long before I joined Chimple, I believed that education should be something a child looks forward to—not something they fear or endure. I wanted to make a difference, but on my own, I could only reach a small group of children. Chimple gave me something I could never have achieved alone—the opportunity to impact the lives of thousands of children through technology.

For that, I owe my heartfelt thanks to Srikanth, for believing in me and giving me the opportunity to contribute to this inspiring mission. It has been a privilege to work with an incredible team that shares the same passion for making learning fun and meaningful, and to have a leader whose commitment to education continues to inspire all of us.

This journey has taught me that not everyone has to be the source of the light. Sometimes, the greatest privilege is to help reflect a vision that enables countless young minds to dream, learn, and grow.

Thank you, Chimple Learning, for the trust, the opportunities, the friendships, and the countless lessons. I am proud of everything we have built together and excited for all that lies ahead.

I am happy to be the mirror that reflects the light of Chimple. ❤️

The People Who Judged My Life Weren't Living It

The People Judging My Life Weren't Living It

There was a time in my life when I spent far too much energy explaining myself. I explained my choices, my decisions, my struggles, and sometimes even my survival. What I didn't realise then was that the people demanding explanations were not living my life—they were merely observing it from a comfortable distance. It's easy to tell someone what they should do when you don't have to live with the consequences. I learned this most painfully when I found myself choosing between preserving a relationship and preserving myself. People had plenty of advice. "Marriages are made in heaven," they reminded me. Perhaps they are. But some people forget that while a marriage may be made in heaven, it can feel like hell on earth for the person trying to survive it. The people offering opinions didn't wake up to my reality every day. They weren't carrying the loneliness, the emotional exhaustion, or the burden of responsibilities that should never have belonged to one person alone.

Raising a child with special needs taught me this lesson even more deeply. People often underestimate what it takes—not just financially, but emotionally, physically, and mentally. What hurt most was watching one parent slowly walk away from responsibilities that should have been shared, while everyone around me continued reminding me of my duties. My duty to adjust. My duty to compromise. My duty to forgive. My duty to endure. Rarely did anyone stop to ask what duties others had towards me. Who was supporting me? Who was sharing the worries, the appointments, the decisions, and the sleepless nights? It often felt as though responsibility flowed in only one direction. The expectation was that I should keep giving, keep sacrificing, and keep carrying more, no matter how heavy the load became.

For years, I tried to live up to those expectations. I tried to be patient, understanding, and accommodating. The harder I tried, the more invisible I became. Somewhere along the way, I realised something important: the people judging my choices did not have to live with the outcome of those choices. When they went home, they returned to their own lives. I returned to mine. They were not raising my daughter. They were not managing my challenges. They were not dealing with the consequences of staying, leaving, sacrificing, or rebuilding. I was. That realisation helped me draw a line between judgement and being judgmental. Legal judgement exists because society needs rules. Being judgmental is something entirely different—it is forming opinions about battles you have never had to fight.

The day I stopped seeking permission from spectators was the day I began reclaiming my peace. I stopped treating other people's opinions as more important than my lived experience. I stopped believing that every difficult decision required public approval. Most importantly, I stopped explaining myself to people who had never carried even a fraction of the weight I was carrying. The older I get, the more I understand that every person's life contains chapters invisible to outsiders. We see decisions and assume we know the story. We rarely see the heartbreak, fear, courage, sacrifice, and resilience that came before them.

Today, I no longer measure my choices against other people's expectations. I measure them against my values, my responsibilities, and my peace of mind. Because the truth is simple: the people judging my life weren't living it. I was. And at the end of the day, I am the one who has to live with my decisions, make peace with them, and look at myself in the mirror. Fortunately, after all these years, I have learned that my own understanding matters far more than anyone else's judgement.

Happy Father's Day Dear Dad

 My dad never just told me I could do anything—he made me believe it.

He celebrated every achievement, no matter how small. He trusted me with his accounts even before I reached high school. He asked for my opinion on important decisions and made me feel that my thoughts mattered.

He never expected me to serve anyone—before or after marriage. Instead, he taught me self-respect, confidence, and independence. In his eyes, I was the smartest person he knew, and being compared to me was the highest compliment he could give.

When I moved to Byndoor, he didn't just encourage me from afar. He came there, helped me understand village life, and stood beside me as I learned to build a new life. He cared for Rayyan and Farheena with a love and dedication that only a grandfather like him could give.

When I started selling soft toys, he was right there with me—setting up stalls before anyone else arrived, welcoming early visitors, and proudly making the first few sales. He never stood behind me. He stood beside me.

No matter where life took me, my dad was always there.

I don't need Father's Day to remember him. The values he gave me, the confidence he built in me, and the principles he lived by are present in everything I do, every single day.

Today and every day, I carry a part of him with me.

Forever grateful. Forever your daughter.

Everyone Is a Human Being. But Only Some Are Being Human.

 

Mastering the Art of Disappointing People Gracefully

The Art of Disappointing People Gracefully

If I had a talent that consistently showed up throughout my life, it would be this: I have mastered the art of disappointing people gracefully.

Not by being rude or rebellious. Not by deliberately defying expectations. Quite the opposite. I have generally tried to be kind, responsible, hardworking, and dependable. Yet, despite my best efforts, I have repeatedly disappointed people simply because I refused to become the version of me they had already decided was inevitable.

It began with my club foot. The moment people notice a visible difference, they often start writing your story for you. They imagine limitations before they imagine possibilities. I suspect many people looked at my foot and quietly concluded that sports would never be my thing. Unfortunately for them, nobody had informed me of this arrangement. I loved running. I played kho-kho and throwball with enthusiasm, competed fiercely, and ended up winning medals at school and district-level competitions. The foot that was expected to slow me down carried me across playing fields and finishing lines with remarkable determination.

Meanwhile, I was doing rather well academically too. Looking back, I must have been a particularly inconvenient child: a girl with a club foot who enjoyed sports, won medals, and brought home good grades. It was a deadly combination for anyone invested in low expectations. I had the unfortunate habit of ruining perfectly reasonable assumptions.

The same foot carried me through college, through long walks, through life's ordinary demands, and eventually through motherhood. When my daughter Farheena was born, I carried her too. Raising a child changes every parent. Raising a child with special needs reshapes your understanding of love, patience, advocacy, and endurance. It teaches you to celebrate milestones that others take for granted and to develop reserves of strength you never knew existed.

Then, at twenty-nine, came another chapter people were eager to predict: Stage 3 breast cancer. I was a young mother with an eleven-month-old daughter. Survival statistics entered conversations, sometimes spoken aloud and sometimes hidden in sympathetic glances. There seemed to be an unspoken expectation that my story had reached its tragic climax.

Thirty years later, I remain deeply apologetic for disappointing that narrative.

I have now spent three decades surviving breast cancer. More importantly, I have spent those decades living. Each year has brought its own struggles and joys, but also growth, learning, laughter, and the stubborn insistence that survival is not merely the absence of death. Survival is participation. It is choosing to engage with life even when life has not been particularly gentle with you.

The years after cancer were not easy. I was raising my daughter, navigating financial uncertainty, and receiving virtually no financial support from anyone. It would have been understandable to place my own ambitions on hold indefinitely. Yet I wanted an education, and wanting something deeply enough has a way of making you resourceful. I stitched clothes, wrote articles, gave tuitions, and took on whatever odd jobs came my way to fund my studies. Progress rarely arrives in dramatic fashion. More often, it comes disguised as persistence repeated over and over again.

Eventually, those efforts led me to complete my Master's degree in Counselling and Psychotherapy. I attended interviews, secured a good job, and built a meaningful career. Once again, expectations suffered another graceful disappointment. The woman many assumed would spend her life simply coping with circumstances was now helping others navigate theirs.

One of the greatest privileges of my professional life was helping other women start—or restart—their careers. Many had lost confidence in themselves. Some believed it was too late. Others had spent years placing everyone else's dreams ahead of their own. I recognised those fears because I had wrestled with them too. Through my work and later through My Giggle Garden, I found immense satisfaction in reminding women that pauses are not endings and that reinvention remains possible at every stage of life.

By then, I had developed a habit of learning new things simply because I could. I learned to swim. I learned to ride a scooter. I became comfortable using computers and, when required, fixing them too. I kept up with technology, explored new applications, adapted to changing times, and refused to surrender to the idea that certain skills belonged only to younger generations. Most recently, I earned my driving licence. Apparently, I have reached an age when society expects women to become spectators, while I remain rather interested in participating.

Then there is the stand-up comedy.

This perhaps disappoints expectations most delightfully of all.

People rarely anticipate that a breast cancer survivor might choose humour as part of her healing. Yet I stand on stages and make people laugh about my cancer journey because they removed my tumour, not my sense of humour. Laughter has carried me through some of the darkest chapters of my life. It has softened fear, built connection, and reminded me that joy and suffering are not mutually exclusive. Sometimes they sit side by side, holding hands.

When I look back across the decades, I realise that my life has not been defined by tragedy, resilience, achievement, or survival alone. It has been shaped by my repeated refusal to accept other people's assumptions as my destiny.

The assumption that a child with a club foot would be physically limited.

The assumption that illness would define the rest of my life.

The assumption that caregiving would extinguish ambition.

The assumption that financial hardship would end educational aspirations.

The assumption that age should bring surrender instead of curiosity.

Time and again, those assumptions have been proven wrong.

Perhaps that is the lesson I have earned through experience: other people's expectations are not prophecies. They are merely opinions dressed up as certainty. They reveal more about the limits of another person's imagination than they do about your actual potential.

As for me, I intend to continue disappointing people for as long as I can.

I will keep learning new skills. I will continue laughing at inappropriate moments. I will celebrate milestones that nobody expected me to reach. I will cheer for women discovering their own strength. I will love fiercely, work wholeheartedly, and remain curious about what life still has to offer.

I have lived and laughed my way through a life that was repeatedly underestimated.

And if that disappoints expectations, so be it.

After all, I have become rather good at disappointing people gracefully.

— Farida

Dear Sister - You are More Than a Memory

 Today, a quiet but heavy realization hit me.

My sister passed away in 1996. I was blessed to have her in my life for 29 years, but as of this year, I have now lived without her for 30. For the very first time, the years of missing her outnumber the years we shared.

Yet, numbers lie. The math of grief doesn't match the math of the heart.

Even after three decades, I still feel her so vividly around me. I can still hear her laughter, picture her innocence, and honestly, even recall her quick anger. Her emotions were always on the extremes—there was no middle ground with her—and that raw, unfiltered authenticity is exactly what endeared her to absolutely everyone.

It made me think about how weird and beautiful human connection is. If you love deeply enough, a person you haven't seen in 30 years can remain fiercely alive, loved, and close to your heart. Meanwhile, if you fall out of love or a relationship sours, you could be living under the exact same roof with someone and constantly forget their presence altogether. Physical proximity means nothing; love is the only thing that anchors someone to your life.

Time keeps moving, but love stays completely still.

Miss you, my dear sister... Your memories are, and will always be, my greatest treasure. ✨❤️

I Need Approval as Much as a Crow Needs a Car

 

There was a time when I cared far too much about what people thought. Not because they were wiser, or because they knew me better than I knew myself, but because, like many women of my generation, I was raised to believe that approval mattered. Approval from family. Approval from relatives. Approval from society. Approval of teachers. Approval from complete strangers who somehow felt qualified to comment on how I should live my life.

Then life happened.

Cancer happened.

Motherhood happened.

Challenges happened.

And somewhere along the way, I realised something important: the people who had opinions about my life were rarely the ones living it.

After cancer, I slowly began rebuilding myself. Not with grand declarations or dramatic transformations, but through small acts of courage that accumulated over time. I started making choices based on what felt right to me rather than what looked acceptable to everyone else.

I began wearing clothes because I liked them. Not because they fit somebody else's expectations of how a woman my age should dress. It sounds simple, doesn't it? Yet many women spend years dressing for approval rather than comfort, confidence, or joy.

Then I started earning my own money. Not because I wanted to prove anything to anyone, but because earning gave me something precious—a stronger voice in my own life. Financial independence didn't just change my bank balance; it changed the way I saw myself. It gave me choices. And choices are a form of freedom.

I started travelling alone when necessary. I made decisions without consulting a committee of critics. I stopped seeking permission for things that required only my own consent. The world didn't collapse. The sky didn't fall. The neighbours survived.

In fact, life became lighter.

Some people approved. Some didn't. And that's when I discovered one of adulthood's best-kept secrets: other people's approval is optional. Helpful sometimes. Necessary almost never.

Think about a crow for a moment.

If you offered a crow the keys to a luxury car, what would happen? Absolutely nothing. The crow wouldn't be impressed. It wouldn't suddenly feel more successful. It wouldn't compare itself to other crows. It would simply fly away and continue being a crow because the car has no value in its world.

These days, that's how I feel about unnecessary approval.

If advice comes from people who genuinely care about me, I'll listen. If criticism helps me grow, I'll consider it. But random judgement, unsolicited opinions, and endless commentary about how women should dress, earn, travel, age, or dream? No, thank you.

Life has taught me that there is a difference between seeking guidance and seeking validation. Guidance can help us grow. Validation can become a cage if we depend on it too much.

I spent too many years worrying about fitting into someone else's idea of who I should be. These days, I am far more interested in becoming who I am.

The older I get, the more freedom I feel. Not because life has become easier, but because I have stopped handing other people the power to decide whether my choices are acceptable.

So wear the outfit.

Take the trip.

Learn the skill.

Earn the money.

Change direction.

Start over if you need to.

The people who disapprove will think about it for a few minutes. You will live with the consequences—or the rewards—for years.

Choose the life that feels right to you.

After all, a crow doesn't need a car.

And neither you, nor I, nor anyone else needs everyone's approval to live life fully.

— Farida

All Things Cannot Be Fixed... Some Need Healing

 When something breaks, our first instinct is to fix it. A broken chair can be repaired. A broken appliance can be replaced. But life doesn't always work that way. Some things cannot be fixed. They need healing.

It took me many years to understand the difference. There were relationships that did not become what I hoped they would be. There were words spoken that could never be taken back. There were disappointments that quietly chipped away at my confidence. There were decisions—some mine, some made for me—that changed the direction of my life forever. For a long time, I kept trying to fix everything. I wanted people to change. I wanted circumstances to improve. I wanted life to become fair. I wanted the pain to disappear. But healing taught me that not everything is meant to be fixed. Sometimes the relationship doesn't return to what it once was. Sometimes the apology never comes. Sometimes life takes away the future you had carefully planned. And sometimes, you have no choice but to stop trying to repair the past and start healing yourself instead.

One of my greatest teachers in this journey was my daughter. Raising a child with special needs was not something I had prepared for. Like many parents, I began with expectations about how life would unfold. Life had different plans. There were challenges I could not fix, struggles I could not make disappear, and days filled with worry, exhaustion, guilt, and uncertainty. Slowly, I learned that my role was not to fix everything. My role was to love, support, adapt, and grow. In that process, I discovered that healing often begins when we stop fighting reality and start embracing it.

Then cancer arrived. At 29, I was diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer. Once again, life presented me with something I could not simply fix. The surgery could remove a tumour. The treatment could fight the disease. But neither could instantly heal the fear, the grief, the loss of confidence, or the emotional scars that followed. Those things required patience, time, and compassion toward myself. For years, I believed strength meant pushing through pain. Today, I think strength is something gentler. Strength is allowing yourself to heal. It is understanding that healing is not forgetting what happened; it is learning how to carry what happened without letting it carry you.

Looking back, I realise I did not fix my life—I healed it. Piece by piece. I healed from disappointments, fear, self-doubt, and the belief that my worth depended on other people's approval. As I healed, something unexpected happened. Joy returned. Confidence returned. Purpose returned. Not because life became perfect, but because I stopped waiting for perfection before allowing myself to live.

Today, when I look at the woman I have become, I do not see someone whose life was fixed. I see someone who healed. Someone who learned that broken things can still be beautiful. Someone who discovered that scars do not make us weaker—they remind us of how much we survived.

Because all things cannot be fixed. Some need healing.

— Farida ❤️

I Couldn’t Stop the Rain, So I Held an Umbrella!

Cancer did not arrive alone. It came carrying fear, pain, exhaustion, and responsibilities that did not pause simply because I was sick. At 29, after my mastectomy, I still had a special needs child who needed me every single day. There were no breaks from motherhood. No pause button for caregiving. My body was weak, stitched together physically and emotionally, yet life still expected me to show up—and I did.

Some days, even lifting my arm felt painful. Yet I had to lift a child, comfort a child, care for a child. I often wondered how a body that hurt so much was still expected to carry so much love.

Then came the financial struggles. Cancer is expensive. Survival is expensive. And when you are already emotionally exhausted, financial uncertainty quietly eats away at your dignity too. There were moments I felt guilty—not because I was weak, but because illness made me feel like a burden. That guilt hurt almost as much as the surgery itself.

And then there was loneliness—the kind that exists even when people are physically around you. One of the deepest wounds during that time came from feeling emotionally unsupported by the person I expected would stand beside me through it all. Fear changes people. Sometimes it makes them kinder. Sometimes it makes them distant. There were moments when even simple human closeness disappeared because of irrational fears that illness could somehow “spread.” Imagine surviving cancer while also carrying the pain of feeling untouchable. But perhaps that is also where my transformation began.

Because slowly, I realised something important: if life was going to continue being difficult, then I had to become stronger than the difficulty itself.

I could not stop the rain.

I could not stop cancer from entering my life. I could not stop financial hardship. I could not stop disappointment. I could not stop exhaustion.

But I could hold an umbrella.

So I learned. I learned how to survive one difficult day at a time. How to mother through pain. How to smile through uncertainty. How to rebuild myself emotionally, financially, and spiritually.

And over time, something extraordinary happened.

The woman who once felt helpless became the woman others leaned on. I stopped seeing myself as broken. I started seeing myself as capable.

Today, when people see strength in me, they see the laughter, the confidence, the humour, and the resilience. But what they don’t always see is the woman walking through the storm carrying children in one hand and holding her umbrella with the other.

And maybe that is what courage truly looks like—not someone untouched by pain, but someone who keeps walking anyway. ❤️

Not Just Surviving — Soaring

 Cancer forced me to discover parts of myself I never knew existed.At first, I was simply trying to survive—trying to care for my special needs daughter while fighting for my own life at the same time. There were days I felt broken by fear, responsibility, exhaustion, and uncertainty.But somewhere along the journey from the nest to the sky, something changed.I stopped waiting for someone else to rescue me.The woman who once quietly depended on others slowly became the woman others depended on.As I learned to fly, I wasn’t flying alone—I was carrying my children with me.

Every small step I took toward strength became a safer ground for them to stand on. Every time I rebuilt myself, I was also building security, stability, and hope for my family.And over time, the same woman who once questioned her own strength began helping other women discover theirs.I found myself encouraging women to study again, work again, believe in themselves again. To stop shrinking their dreams. To stop believing they must remain trapped in unhappy nests simply because they had forgotten they were born with wings too.

My preschool became more than a workplace—it became a space built on compassion, inclusion, independence, and acceptance. A place where children felt seen, and where mothers often left feeling a little stronger too.Looking back now, I realise something beautiful:

Cancer did not merely teach me how to survive.

It taught me how to rise.

And once I discovered my wings, I spent the rest of my life helping others believe in theirs. 

Die or Dye? The Confusion That Motivated Me!

 There’s an old story about a group of frogs climbing a tall tower in the middle of a forest. Apparently, frogs are very ambitious creatures. As the frogs began climbing, crowds gathered below to watch. But instead of cheering, the audience behaved exactly like social media comment sections in human form.

“You’ll never make it!”
“That tower is impossible!”
“Turn back before you fall!”

One by one, the frogs started listening. Some fell down and died. Some got injured. And one by one, they gave up. Except for one little frog. This frog kept climbing. No matter how loud the crowd became, no matter how impossible the climb looked, the frog just kept going. Slowly. Steadily. Determined. And finally… against all odds… it reached the top. The other frogs were shocked. 

“How did you do it?” they asked. 

That’s when they discovered the truth:

The frog was deaf. 

It had no idea everyone was discouraging it. The poor thing thought they were cheering. 😄

Honestly, I think I may have been that frog.When I was diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer at 29, people suddenly became experts on my future.

Some spoke in whispers.
Some spoke in statistics.
Some spoke in sympathy so dramatic you’d think they were auditioning for a tragic television serial.

And then there were the people who discussed death right in front of me.

“Oh, even people with the best treatment don’t survive cancer sometimes…”
“I knew someone who had exactly this…”
“It’s very difficult…”

Thank you, motivational committee. ❤️

But somewhere between chemotherapy, surgeries, fear, and survival mode, I think my brain accidentally became selective in what it heard. Because while people kept saying “die, die,” I apparently heard “dye, dye.” 💇‍♀️

So I carried on.

Then chemotherapy took away every strand of my hair.

And I remember looking at my bald head thinking,
“Well… this is awkward. How exactly am I supposed to dye THIS?” 😄

But life, thankfully, had other plans. The hair came back. Dark. Thick. Completely black. Of course it did—I was only 29. So I made a decision. I would wait. One day, when life gave me grey hair, I would dye it. And that became my tiny, silly, secret promise to myself:

Live long enough to complain about grey hair.

Years passed.

I survived.

But more importantly, I lived.Somewhere along the way, I stopped merely surviving cancer and started fully living life.

And one day, many years later, I stood in front of a mirror with hair dye in my hand and realised something beautiful:

I had become the deaf frog.

The world may have expected me to stop climbing long ago.

But I kept going because somewhere deep inside, I chose hope over noise. I did not stop after reaching the tower. 

I studied further.
I worked and built a career.
I rebuilt my confidence.
I became emotionally and financially independent.
I started a preschool filled with children, laughter, noise, crayons, chaos, and joy.

And moreover, just like that frog reaching the top of the tower…I lived long enough to dye my hair. ❤️

Cancer at 29. Driving license at 59!

 

Cancer at 29. Driving license at 59.

That says a lot about life.

At 29, I was fighting Stage 3 breast cancer, sitting in hospital corridors wondering if I would even have a future. People spoke about cancer like it was the end. Some even spoke right in front of me about those who had “everything” and still didn’t survive.But somewhere deep inside, I decided cancer may visit my life… but it would never own it.

So I kept going.

I studied again.
I worked.

I rebuilt myself.
I learned to put myself on my own priority list for the very first time.

And at 59, I finally got my driving license, sat behind the wheel of my Windsor, and drove into a life I once thought I might never get to live.

Life tried to stop me at 29.
I hit the accelerator at 59. ❤️

The Day That Changed Everything.

 28th April. The Day That Changed Everything.

30 years ago, on this very day in 1996, I walked into an operation theatre… not knowing what my life would look like on the other side. I woke up that morning with two breasts… and went back to bed with one— losing a part of my body to cancer at just 29.There are some days that divide your life forever. This was mine. Before that morning, I believed life would go on as planned.
After that morning, I understood how fragile, unpredictable—and incredibly precious—life really is. I won’t pretend I was fearless.
I was afraid. Afraid of the pain. Afraid of the unknown. Afraid of whether I would even have a future to return to. But I walked in anyway. Because sometimes courage doesn’t look like strength. Sometimes it simply looks like taking the next step… even when you’re terrified. That surgery didn’t just remove a tumour. It removed the illusion that I had all the time in the world. And in its place, it gave me something far more powerful— a second chance at life. A chance I didn’t waste. Over the years, I didn’t just survive… I rebuilt. I grew.
And today marks something deeply meaningful— from this day onward, I will have spent more years after my diagnosis than before it. Life after that day was never the same. But here’s the truth no one tells you—It got better.
So today, I don’t look back at 28th April with fear. I look at it with gratitude. Because that was the day my life didn’t end… It began again. And 30 years later, I’m still here. Still living. Still choosing joy. Still proving that this story was never cancer’s to write. It was always mine. ❤️
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30 Years Later… And Cancer Still Regrets Choosing Me

 This 28th April, I celebrate 30 years of outliving Stage 3 breast cancer.

Or as I like to say—30 years of cancer regretting its life choices.

I often think back to that version of me… standing at the edge of fear, staring into the unknown.
Back then, cancer felt like a full stop.
A word that silenced rooms.
A diagnosis that made people look at me differently—sometimes with pity, sometimes with quiet doubt.And sometimes, not so quietly.

I heard the whispers.

I heard people speak—right in front of me—about how even those who could afford the best treatment didn’t survive.
As if my story had already been written.
As if the ending was decided.

But what they didn’t see… was the battle within.

The long, exhausting days.
The nights filled with questions.
The moments where strength didn’t feel heroic—it felt like survival in its rawest form.
The times I had to dig deep… deeper than I ever had before… just to find one more reason, one more ounce of strength to keep going.

And somewhere in that fight, something shifted.

I stopped just trying to survive… and slowly started choosing to live.

That’s the thing about struggles like this—
they don’t just test you, they transform you.

Life after cancer was never the same.
But not in the way people feared.

It became fuller.
More intentional.
More honest.

I began to laugh a little louder—because I knew what silence felt like.
I loved a little deeper—because I understood how fragile time can be.
I started living more consciously—because every single day felt like a gift I had fought hard for.

Cancer tried to take away my life.
Instead, it gave me a new way to live it.

So when I say I’ve spent 30 years outliving cancer, I don’t just mean time.
I mean reclaiming joy.
I mean rediscovering purpose.
I mean standing tall, stomping on every doubt, every fear—just like that little crab beneath my feet—and saying, “I’m still here.”

And if you are in the middle of your own battle right now—whatever it may be—
please remember this:

This is not the end of your story.

Hold on.
Even when it’s hard.
Even when it feels unfair.
Even when others have already made up their minds about how your story should go.

Because there is a beautiful life waiting for you on the other side of this.

Stronger.
Deeper.
More meaningful than you can imagine right now.

Trust me…
I’ve been living it for 30 years. ❤️

NIPUN BHARAT Numeracy Roadmap

An interactive guide to the Foundational Numeracy goals from Balvatika to Grade 3, as outlined in the NIPUN BHARAT mission. Explore the key competencies and their progression across different grades.

Grades at a Glance

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Key Learning Outcomes: Select a Grade

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Progress and Complexity

This chart shows the number of key learning competencies to be achieved at each grade level, providing a visual overview of the curriculum's progression.

Skill Progression Tree

Click on any learning outcome to see its connection to other skills. This interactive tree shows the prerequisites and where this skill leads in the learning journey.

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