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Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Uff yeh Uppama Bloggers Meet


A tiny group of Bangalore Indibloggers got together over a bowl of Uppama and Ice creams, when rest of the bloggers were bored with their routine life. The most important part of this bloggers meet was not the dvd’s T-shirts or pen drives, but an excellent Uppama prepared by the smart bachelor with potatoes(?) and other veggies.  The taste of the Uppama was so good that in the end everyone unanimously voted to call the meet as Bangalore Bloggers Uppama Meet, and I am very sure every blogger present there feels honored to be a part of this unique group.
The bloggers met at Suresh. C's (yeah yeah the guy with few hairs who makes fun of you) apartment which is one of the most spacious one you will find in BTM 1st stage. Honestly he could entertain a group of 25-50 people comfortably at his place.  I was held up with Farheena and her rehearsals so could not be there earlier, but reached on time to save one single blogger who was left out of the group of fictional writers and future millionaires of the blogging world.
During the surf excel meet, I had heard beautiful voice from behind which described the functioning of vibrating molecules with such details that it had left with everyone else with a feeling of being hit by a thunder, including the one who asked the question. I met the source of that voice at this meet, who was sweet Radha. Unfortunately I can never look at her without thinking about the vibrating molecules.
It as a world of books, serenity and bloggers chit chat... Wonderful way to spend an evening for a blogger, when I say this I don’t have any intention of making those who missed this opportunity to be jealous. Book lovers, if there is a place on earth you should invade then it is here and here in Suresh’s home. This is wrong timing for me to chance upon those books; as I barely have time to scratch my head which itches due to dandruff, leave alone steal books and read them. For time being, I am not invading Suresh’s home for those books or Uppama.
It was bliss for fiction writers, as this meet included some wonderful discussions, tips and topics regarding fiction writing. Though discussed in hushed tones, I have a blueprint of the next fiction best seller that is going to hit the market.
I got an Uff Yeh Emotions book for free from one of authors. Guess who. It is a collection of 11 award winning love stories.  I have read one of them so far, ‘A Path of Thorns which is written by Suresh C. The narration is excellent, especially the details about people and their thoughts. The people in the story are not some extraordinary people, though the heroine has some positive qualities you can appreciate. What I loved about the story is the way the hero accepts his follies and behaves like a man with desires rather than being a saint, which is so common in our Indian fictions. This is a piece of entirely professional work, from a great writer in the making. It is written in impeccable language, great visualization and good topic for story. Looking forward to more stories from the author. 

Monday, March 11, 2013

Pratibha - Celebrating Ability

Pratibha – 2013 by FAME India
The much awaited cultural program Pratibha, the Special Talents Day was organized by FAME India at the JSS auditorium on 2nd March 2013. Like Shefali mentioned, it was a Habba, a festival and a celebration. The colorful event which showcased the efforts of the staff and students in preparation of the props and accessories required for the event left everyone present spell bound. More than anything, the show which flowed smoothly like a knife through the butter with perfect performance by the differently abled children was more than praise worthy. I have attended quite a few school cultural events in my life time because I am involved in preparing children for the programs, but honestly I have never been impressed so much with any event ever in my life.

The Guest of Honor was Mr.Manikandan Kumar, the gold medal winner in para climbing event at the World Sport Climbing Championships in Paris. The young lad, whose right leg is affected by Polio had bolted up the 15 meter wall ahead of 21 professional climbers from across the world to snatch the gold. Not many know about the tough climb of this young man through the wall of poverty which could be tougher than any competition he faces in sports. A humble person of few words he impressed the audience with his simplicity.

The school gives away the Pratibha awards to people who contribute to the society. The award of 2013 was given to Ms.Yvonne Lomax ofBelgaum who runs a Home for the Homeless. Click here to know more about her amazing contribution to the society, as it would be injustice if I write about her in a sentence.

Mr. Nadathur Sarangapani Raghavan an Indian industrialist, one of the seven founders of Infosys Technologies and the founder of the School, Mr S Vaitheeswaran, MD and CEO of Manipal Global Education services, Mrs Janaki Vishwanath the glue that has held the institution together for years were present on the stage.

The introduction was given by a student, who delivered quite a big narration. WOW! That is what I could say. Regarding the crowd, this was a different situation from the one we are used to in Byndoor where Farheena studied previously. I remember how we had to plead with the parents and relatives to come to the cultural program of her school to encourage children, and finally resort to rope in school children as audience. The huge auditorium here was jam packed with excited parents who had almost forgotten even to breathe, as they looked ahead to see their children on the stage. I could see the surprise on Rayyan’s face, when he looked around, for it was clear even he did not expect such crowd.

The Principal of the school Mrs. Kalaivani Raipet deserves accolades for handling the event in such an effective manner that everything went smoothly like a well oiled engine. The challenge for the staff to train their students with Cerebral Palsy, Down ’s syndrome, Intellectual disability, learning disability, autism, and mobility related challenges is not an easy task. I have been hearing about the training and rehearsals from Farheena from past 2 months so I know how it went…

Chauffeuring Farheena to school every day in absence of her regular transport, I have seen the students of FAME India from close quarters.  The attraction of the children is their untouched innocence. Their communication is free of all the style, pretence and artificial flair, so is their thoughts like the special angels. Most of them are very polite and courteous. The wonderful angels like Swati, Pooja, Nikhil, and others have won my heart. I wish I did not have to work so that I could spend more time with these amazing angels from whom we can learn so many lessons of our lives.

The colorful event was not an exhibition of talent by the children, but a festivity to be enjoyed by one and all to repeat the words of MCP Shefali. The program started and ended exactly as scheduled. The annual report showed the diversity and integrity of the program followed by the school, where they prepare their wards to function as much as possible in their surroundings. Like the principal mentioned it was a moment of joy for me when Farheena prepared cucumber salad for my sister’s family, handling knife deftly, for the lunch we had arranged for them. She has gained the confidence by helping out the school kitchen along with her friends. 

The theme was about the journey of India, through her glorious days where she was ruled by wealthy kings, the arrival of British and other Europeans as traders, how they took advantage of the internal conflicts among the Indian rulers and established colonial rule in the land. The scene then shifted to the freedom movement and later on to India after Freedom. The message about acceptance, respect and love for the girl child was also included in the theme without taking it out of rhythm.

Every student was given a part and a chance to be there on the stage. They were shrewdly fitted into the parts which they could manage. A boy who walks with support was smartly given the part of Gandhi so that two of his assistants could make him walk around without it looking out of place. The children who could not follow orders were made to sit in the Durbar or stand as the part of the group. It was not just hard work on part of the organizers, but extremely smart handling of the students.

During one of the performance, a girl tried to get off the stage to join her mother in audience, sending panic through everyone. The incident is an eye opener that the staff does take risk even with their students who exhibit behavioral problems instead of pushing them to the back stage. Putting the interest of students ahead of success is something I appreciate very much.

The whole program was a play of colors, innocence of the students and efforts of the staff. Some of the moments that touched my heart were when Kittur Rani Chenamma pulled out her sword with such a vehemence which was enough to scare the British out of India if there were here, when Miss World Aishwarya broke into dance steps as the music started, the cutest Abdul Kalaam peering through his flowing tresses, and the smartest Dr.Ambedkar preparing the constitution of India. The dance and performance of the students was astounding to say the least. They stomped their feet and flayed their arms as though their life depended on it.

Who would have thought of involving special children in a puppet show that brought out the terrible happening at Jalianwala bagh where thousands were mercilessly massacred by the colonial rulers? Hats off to Mrs. Revati who prepared the students for the show.  She also created the puppets, the show appliances and everything required from scratch with the help of students, staff and volunteers.

The program ended with the students holding a giant flag of India and shouting Jai Hind at the top of their voices. A great successful event which left every one thrilled. It almost moved me to tears to see the tremendous performance by children who have been challenged by their lives.

I saw some of the parents walking away with their child as soon as their performance was over. I wish everyone would stay back and enjoy the whole event, as there is so much of effort put by the children to bring out such performance. Every child up there on the stage is a part of the whole unit of which includes our own special child. For me, every scene was special and my hands are still aching due to the loud clapping I did involuntarily.

Now let me write regarding Farheena’s first experience at the Pratibha. I had seen the excitement in Farheena regarding her tiny part as a British trader who looks at the wealth of India and then decides to loot India. She told me that she carries a gun and shoots it in the air. One day she came home and told me that she does not shoot the gun anymore. I did not take her seriously, but encouraged her to do whatever she can as much as possible and have fun. So, she was excited again to try out her outfit in the rehearsals and walk around the stage looking at the wealth, spices and other goods spread there as a staff member helped her.

Where I messed up is that I did not expect her to get jitters on the final day neither did I realize that she wanted to hold the gun. This is my first experience with Farheena going on the stage in front of huge crowd, therefore I failed to inform the school that she could be nervous.  Unfortunately, the big day turned out to be a nightmare for her when she was scared without her support person who she expected to accompany her on the stage. The bright lights, the crowd, the noise and being alone confused and scared her a lot; again this was her first experience in front of such a big crowd. I could see her being very nervous when she took her steps, and then went back. I can just imagine the cajoling that would have been needed by the school to send her on the stage. If this is the case of one student, I cannot imagine what effort had gone to extract such huge performances from rest of their wards.
Rayyan and I were both disappointed that we did not get a glimpse of her pretty face as the scared girl turned away from the crowd. The most beautiful event of the whole evening awaited me when I went to collect Farheena from the back stage. When everyone was busy handling the event, which does demand a lot of attention, her fellow student Pooja sensing Farheena’s fear was trying to pacify her saying everything is going to be alright. Don’t worry. That was so awesome gesture from a special needs child. The love and concern she showed for Farheena is what a school should teach their children.

As Farheena shared the seat with us she pointed the banner Rayyan had created for the school and said that he is more important there …did I sense I hint of anger or jealousy? I am not sure. Anyway it was the stupid Maa who had told her proudly that the banner up there is created by Rayyan. I know this is not to be said the next time. After sitting there with a droopy face she asked Rayyan whether he had got her picture to share with her friends on facebook, especially her American friends who were waiting for pictures. When Rayyan showed her the pictures he had clicked she was more upset that her face was hidden. She pointed at a girl in front of us and said she hated her because she carried the gun instead of her.
Farheena in the light blue dress making her appearance
It took some time for us to pacify her. I took her out on dinner at her favorite place so that I could cheer her up. Monday she did not want to go to school and said she is not feeling well. I allowed her a day off but cajoled her to attend school the next day. The advantage of being a special child is that nothing lasts for long in their mind. She came back home super excited telling me that they served noodles for lunch in her school, her friend was angry with her for being absent because she felt bored without her and one of her classmate took down her phone number and promised to call her. That made up for everything. The school is a beautiful place again for Farheena….

I have seen the affection, passion and effort with which the staff works with their students, which once again made me realize that I had made the right choice for Farheena. There is such a beautiful bond between the staff, volunteers and the students which is not seen very often. Mrs. Kalaivani, Mrs. Janaki and Mrs. Geetha Murthy were standing a short distance from us, and I could clearly see the excitement, joy and sheer pleasure which they expressed as the students performed on stage. I could not be happier for Farheena and Rayyan as a mother than they were for their students. That should sum it up all.  I wish the school more success and good luck in all their coming ventures.

FAME India is setting an example for special education in India with the support of many people who contribute to the organization in whatever way they can. You can help too. Click here to know more about how YOU can help them. 


Pictures can be viewed on the website of the school here

Tasty Chicken Cones


No that was not a typo. It is actually a Chicken cone, not the regular ice-cream cone. The recipe was introduced to me by my former student Aysha Yusra, who is known to come up with bright cooking ideas which are not just tasty, but also aesthetically very pleasing. So when Blogadda asked to share recipes, I took her help in coming up with one of the tasty looking recipe, that is prepared with Fortune rice bran oil, so that you don’t compromise with your health either.
Method of Preparation for Cone
Ingredients
Maida - 500 gms
Salt to taste
Butter – I tb
Water to mix dough

Warm the water and mix the flour to form dough which is neither too soft nor hard. You should be able to roll it into a chapatti easily. Knead it well and keep it aside for 30 minutes. Divide the dough into equal portions and roll out chapattis from them. Cut the chapattis into inch long strips. Wrap them lightly across the cone moulds. Fry them one by one heated Fortune Rice Barn Oil one by one, until they turn golden brown in color. Do not overcook them, because then they become too crispy and lose the taste. Remove the moulds when you are frying the cones.

Filling
Onions – 4 Medium sizes diced
Boneless chicken – 400 gms cut into small pieces
Tomatoes – 2 medium sizes diced
Salt to taste
Green peas – ½ cup
Caspicum – I big diced
Grated cheese – 1 cup
Coriander leaves – ½ cup
Mint Leaves – ¼ cup
Red Chilies – 1 tsp
Turmeric – ½ tsp
Ginger garlic paste – 1 tsp
Fry the onions in fortune rice bran oil, until they turn golden brown. Add tomatoes, capsicum and fry few minutes, before adding chicken, ginger garlic paste, salt, red chilies, turmeric, mint leaves and half of the coriander leaves to the mix and cook it stirring once in a while. Add boiled green peas to the chicken masala, once the chicken is tender and water evaporated.

Final Preparation
Fill the cone with the chicken masala. Top it up with grated cheese and coriander leaves. Bake it at 200°F in a preheated oven for 5 minutes. Serve hot with Chutney or sauce. 

This post is a part of Healthy & Tasty Recipe Contest with Fortune Rice Bran Health Oil & BlogAdda.com

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Wednesday, March 6, 2013

The Lost Art of Kindness


The Lost Art of Kindness

Seeking the glory, wanting to shine
Everyone madly runs after success divine
On the path a little heart is broken
A tiny tear shed, a word not spoken
A little plea for help, an outstretched arm
Is not to be cared for as it holds no charm
Achieving success and treading path of fame
Ignoring humanity is no more a shame

By Farida Rizwan

Monday, March 4, 2013

A Couple With a Mission...

I have always felt Farheena is safest when she is with me… with just one exception in my whole life. There has been just one person, a man who is from foreign land who made me feel that she would be much safer with him than she is with me. I am not exaggerating here, because during our visit to USA, Farheena had bonded well with lot many people who have left an inedible impact on her heart. Picking out a single person is not going to be fair, but if I got a feeling that is it. I cannot help spontaneous feeling which creeps in without my knowledge.
The wonderful and most humble person I am talking about is Mr. Rick White, a man with such a big heart that I wonder how God fitted it into his chest. When my friends, Rayyan and me went on rides and had fun in Disney World, he stayed back with Farheena and took care of her. I hesitate at least for a moment when I have to leave Farheena with someone, wondering whether she is going to be safe, can they manage her, will they get distracted by something and lose her and all those kind of crazy thoughts. It was shock for me when nothing like that crept in my mind when I had to leave her behind with Rick. He almost made me feel she is going to be safer with him, with us crazy people gone for good ;).
I wish I could have spent some more time and got to know Rick in a much better way than we managed, but then there is no need to know more than what you feel for him in a short while because it tells a lot. My friend and Sister in cancer survival Deb Rizor White, his wife is an amazing woman who can listen and understand even the weirdest kind of experience you would share with her. What strikes me most about this amazing friend I have is her subtle and unique sense of humor.. which does not make you laugh out loud, but leaves you smiling for a long long time. Together, they reach out and make a difference to their community, by connecting with people who need guidance to manage their lives in the big bad world. 
I am so proud to know these people, who in a simple way can make huge difference to the life of the people they touch. Hope to see a project like this in India some day. Another dream to be fulfilled.

 About Rick White, Deb White and thier dream child 'Community Connections'


This is the story of a man who decided to turn his life's work into something with real meaning.. Not just to him, but to a great many others. It's never too late to follow dream. And with determination and hopefulness, "Community Connections" is that place, where more than 75 individuals are finding their dreams becoming reality every day.
Community Connections is an Adult Day Habilitation Program in northeast Ohio. It began with a simple, yet extraordinary need- to provide individuals with developmental disabilities a place to learn, work and live to their fullest potential.
Community Connections was designed around the wants and needs of the individuals served. As a Christian-based facility, we knew the importance of words of encouragement. Where better to start than God's own words: Hope, Faith, Love, Inspire, Dream, Grow and Believe? As we created the workshop from their list of wants and needs, it was important that wherever you looked you would find words to inspire. That was the creation of the wall of inspiration. (Paintings in the dining area). These words are for all of us to read and live by. Above the words is the phrase "I Can". I can do anything and everything to the best of my abilities. This allowed us to remove the labels that hold us all back.
Some individuals have learned to read, write, sew, knit, cook, act, and study the sciences-such as weather and physiology. They love gardening, using a computer, and making crafts to sell in the gift shop. More importantly, as the individuals realize their own potential, they strive to do more new things. Some want jobs in the community earning a paycheck. We also provide life-skills training. These areas include cooking, laundry, washing dishes, sweeping the floor, job research and interviewing skills. One of our individuals drives a van to pick up contract work supplies! As we look for job opportunities in the community, those jobs are centered around the preferences and abilities of the individuals.
There is no better feeling than to see the individuals accomplish something new or to see their faces with their first big paycheck. For the last seven years I have been given the opportunity to make dreams come true, and to live my own dream. I hope in some small way I have changed the lives of the individuals I am so honored to serve as much as they have changed mine. As we continue to grow, we will always remember how we started with Faith, Hope and Love.









Farheena having fun with Sandy and Rick who has oreos ready to feed her. 

Rick Trying hard to fix MP3 player for Farheena so that she could listen to her favorite songs. Right is Deb, being there for Farheena. 

Monday, February 25, 2013

Trapped in a cocoon...

An Update : Surfing through some past articles, I chanced upon this blog post today. Somehow now I fail to relate to it, as I have walked down the path of success since the day I wrote this blog post  few years ago. I love my wings and freedom, especially knowing that I need not depend financially on anyone to take care of me or my children. No more do I feel trapped. 

Trapped In a Cocoon
Marriage is big step for any person. It means commitment, love, affection and companionship. Add a big sacrifice to the list when it comes to Indian women... at least to most of them.

Going through the customs, functions and parties, I did not realize what I was getting into when I got married. It took me years to realize how I had entered a trap and stayed there without realizing that
  • I had lost my personal identity
  • I had lost most part of my freedom
  • I had lost the ability to make my own decisions
  • I could not relate to the individual 'me' without being a wife, mother or some tag attached to myself
  • I had stopped thinking about myself and my happiness
  • I had got into a relationship with more people than my husband and had to deal with them
  • I was becoming subdued and sacrificial
  • I was trying very hard to make everyone proud of me
  • I thought I could make others happy and I should try to make others happy
  • I WAS NOT IMPORTANT
The realization, when it happened, shook me to the core slowly awakening me from the slumber I had slipped into. The unused parts of brain had become rigid and refused to move but I did not quit trying. I am working to find myself, the person who is the real me other than what I am meant to be because of my connections to others. The journey continues ……………………

A poem I wrote when I took the first step of self actualization.


Trapped in a cocoon...

The free butterfly spreading its wings
Flew around playing with winds
Sipping nectar and dew from flowers
In bright sunlight shining its colours
Over the hills and over the dales
Freely it flew, with no fear of gales

Sadly, one fine day it got trapped in a cocoon
Losing its freedom and spending time in gloom
Wishing to be free from the suffocating pain
Wondering in the dark how to be free again

For the cool breeze is still blowing
The dews like pearls are still glowing
Over the hills, the day is so sunny
All the flowers are filled with honey

But the wings are not strong being under cover
The cocoon has dented its flights power
There are weights bearing the wings down
With all the strings attached; weary it has grown

The cocoon is strong but not unbreakable
Long flights and strides is now impossible
One step at a time leaning on a cane
Towards freedom, the butterfly moves again….

By: Farida Rizwan.

Saturday, February 23, 2013

Complete Without You


I was incomplete with you
I needed you to complete me
I wanted you with me so that
You would compliment me
I desired the warmth and love
And companionship from you
But you were not there
All I had was that void
Through which I found myself
 I don’t need you anymore
As I am now complete without you
BY
Farida Rizwan

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Wonderful Workshop for Parents @ FAME India


FAME India had organized a wonderful workshop for the parents of their students at the school premises on 16th February 2013. This is my first experience with such a program at the school, as Farheena was admitted into the school only in 2012. I came to know that FAME India has constantly tried to bring in external resource persons to provide information about varied aspects of special education and varied needs of children with special needs through such events.
The workshop lasted from 10 a.m. to 4.30 p.m.
The first session as conducted by Dr. Indiramma, Retd Ass. Prof. NIMHANS on Behavior problems and its Management.
It was followed by ‘Motor Skill Training programme by Dr. Ushma Goradia, Director, Active Kaarya.
Mr.Mohan, Assistant Disabled Welfare Officer gave information about Government schemes for persons with disabilities.
Finally Mr. Sunil Khimsura gave details about financial planning for Special Needs Children.
I am amazed that the school served 2 tea/coffee and Lunch free for the parents. Those parents who did not have arrangements to leave behind their wards at home were allowed to tag them along. The students were taken care of by the school staff while the parents attended the workshop. Cannot thank the school enough for the wonderful learning experience.
My perspective and observation is to be followed. 

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Farheena's Outing At MNK Rao Park with Kilikili



Sailing away

Kilikili had organized an event at MNK Rao park, Basavanagudi on 9th February, 2013. You can read more about Kilikili HERE
After registration, the children broke the barriers of ability and disability, playing together and having fun in the park that had inclusive play spaces that was accessible to all children. I think Farheena’s recollection of the event through her art will tell more about it than my words. So, I am making way for the artist to give a good picture of Kilikili.


Farheena on swing, and children playing around her. Mina was the volunteer who helped Farheena

Children breaking barriers and playing together in the park

Farheena Mina and Manal walk in the park where children are playing on slides, badminton, ball games 

Walking in the sand

Spreading out in the park
Children entering the place for drawing 

Too many swings
Mina managing children


Planning to go back with ball and cousins once again


What Farheena learned to draw from Kilikili event



In the park having fun




Getting Ready For Fun
Relaxing after fun

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